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Great Communicators Don't Leave People Hanging
Found this article in the New Jersey Journal.
Great communicators understand they need to be proactive. They understand that most people on the other end are expecting you to reach out and let them know where things stand without that person having to follow up with you.
The simple concept of "closing the loop" is so significant, not just in terms of client service, but also for professionals who report to their managers and leaders of organizations. Ask yourself this question: If you were the head of a department or division in a company with many people reporting to you dealing with numerous projects, would you rather chase down information about where things stand or have your team members proactively communicate about the status of those projects and the projected completion of them? The answer is obvious.
But in spite of this, too many people are too passive in their communication and wait to be asked, prodded, begged and sometimes pushed very hard by their boss to do what is essentially their job. Simply put, keep your boss in the know. Close the loop. Doing this will reduce your boss' anxiety level, will make you look good and, further, will allow the leader of your team to focus more on the bigger picture rather than micromanaging the information flow.
Even if the project or assignment you are working on is not completed, or you are facing real obstacles or challenges, close the loop by sending an email or communicate via phone or in person to those who need to know about the situation. That way, you can deal with the situation together.
Written by Steve Adubato. View full article http://www.nj.com/business/index.ssf/2014/03/great_communicators_close_the_loop.html
Lance Miller: Speaking With Conviction
Lance Miller, World Champion of Public Speaking recently published a letter on Speaking with Conviction:
The speaking world is filled with clever catch phrases, 6 second
sound bites and speeches written for their political correctness or sensational
impact. But I have found that NOTHING communicates, NOTHING penetrates and
NOTHING motivates more than a speech based on the convictions of the speaker.
"Speaking with conviction" has almost
become a catch phrase of its own.
I have watched people try to speak with
conviction, try to create a little conviction on the spot, like
putting some extra salt on their popcorn.
This is the speaker who is acting like he has
conviction. This all too often ends up with the speaker trying to convince the
audience, that he is convinced, in the rightness or correctness of the subject.
Webster's defines conviction as: "a:
a strong
persuasion or belief",
"b: the state of being convinced."
Webster's also defines conviction as, "the act or
process of finding a person guilty of a crime especially in a court of law."
So we see that we can have conviction, but we can
also get a conviction. To get a conviction, to prove someone
guilty of a crime, the prosecution must prove their case beyond a reasonable
doubt.
When I ask myself, "Do I have conviction?" I am
really asking, by the definition, "I have handled any reasonable
doubts that I have on this subject?"
Having conviction is not about convincing the audience of your
conviction, it is about convincing yourself.
If I have doubts in the correctness of what I am saying, I will
withhold myself from the audience. I will assume a slightly defensive position,
based on the possibility of someone calling me out on my doubts.
To impact an audience, I have to speak without hesitation or
reservation. I cannot do that if I doubt what I say.
Message from The World Champion of Public Speaking
There are numerous theories on how and why stage fright occurs.
But two things are certain:
(1) It is not
caused by fear of a hostile audience, as stage fright occurs with even the
friendliest and sympathetic audiences,
(2) It is
something that occurs on the speaker's side of the equation.
Over the years of speaking and personal coaching, I have been
asked for magic cures and secret solutions to address people's fear of public
speaking.
There is only one solution I know of for stage fright. That
solution is frequent public speaking.
There is no silver bullet, no magic pill or no
self-actualized-mental-exercises that I have found that resolves speaking
jitters and the tongue-tied mental blankness of stage fright.
Speaking is a muscle, you have exercise and strengthen it!
If you don't use it, you will lose it!
Here are some tips that I use to handle speaking nerves:
1. Being nervous about speaking before a group is natural.
Do not feel like it is "only you" and that you should
not feel that way. Just say, "I am nervous, therefore, I am
normal!"
2. Know what you are going to say. Practice and
drill your speech until you know it completely. If you are unsure of what or
how you will say it, you will be unsure when you are speaking.
3. Get excited about your message! Believe its value to the
audience. If you have doubts about your message, if you think that the audience
is not interested or won't like it, that can cause anxiety and nervousness.
I use the analogy of: "If the room was on fire, would
you be able to speak to everyone and tell them to get out!?" That is a
message I would definitely want to deliver! Then I create the same amount of
importance for my message.
4. Get comfortable with the room you are speaking in. Get there
early. Walk the room. Stand in each corner, stand at the front, stand at the
back, sit in the seats. Stand for 5 - 10 minutes where you will be speaking
from, until you are comfortable being in the location. If possible, rehearse
your speech in the room.
Source: Lance Miller, World Champion of Public Speaking
Highlights from Last weeks:
Kristin
Blomstrom induced Alaaddin Mogeem as a new member to club. Toastmaster Krystal
Rose kicked off our meeting by introducing our topic "Membership". General
evaluator Nancy Huang introduced her team who gave feedback on time, grammar
use and filler-word use. Our word of the day “optimal” proved that our club is
best at keeping our meetings running smoothly and on time. Michelle Bender
presented an Advanced Speech, Project 3 from the Storytelling manual titled
“The Moral of the Story” and Nancy Flentie presented CC Speech #2 titled “What
was that Teenager Thinking?” which was informative and well organized. Best
Speaker went to Michelle Bender, Best Evaluator to Kim Acedo and Best Table
Topics to Alaaddin Mogeem. Thanks to everyone who participated in the meeting
and helped to optimize its success by giving us all a chance to practice &
receive valuable feedback in a supportive and encouraging atmosphere. Written
by EVP Rose Abbott, CC, ALB
Aggressor vs. Socializer—What's Your Communication Style?
Consider these four communication styles and
how you can effectively communicate with each one.
The Aggressor-Asserter
These are your CEOs in attitude. They are competitive, goal-oriented, demanding, task-oriented and fast-paced. To these people, time is money and money is time. You know where you stand since they are blunt and direct in their communication. Their biggest fear is losing control and they ask the “What” questions. The “aggressor-asserter” has key strengths that include providing momentum, providing focus and making quick decisions. Their “on top of it” approach to projects can keep the rest of the team on target or even get it done early. This must be balanced with their weaknesses, however, which include overstepping their assignments, taking over tasks that have been assigned to others (and not necessarily because they can do them better, they just want to get them done).
To effectively connect with the aggressor-asserter, you must:
The Socializer
These individuals are charismatic, enthusiastic, persuasive, lively, loud, talkative, friendly, people-oriented and social. They are also visual and creative. Their biggest fear is social rejection and they ask the “who” questions. The “socializer’ is a great motivator. In the most organizations, they are on sales team. They are creative and enjoy brainstorming. They do not keep track of time well and sometimes work tight to deadlines. They enjoy being the center of attention.
To effectively communicate with the socializer, you must:
The Mediator
These individuals are calm, level-headed, great listeners, team-oriented, introverted and loyal. They make decisions in a consensus manner. Mediators like to marinate on questions—you will not get an answer immediately. They dislike conflict so they will internalize and tolerate it. As a result, this internalization builds until they explode. Their biggest fear is loss of stability and they ask the “How” questions. Team and project managers are typically fall into this style. Weaknesses include being hesitant in their approach slowing decision-making—they are going to try to keep everyone happy at the expense of their happinesss. Mediators are hard-working who are humble and do not pat themselves on the back. They make great teachers/trainers and mentors due to their calming and supportive nature.
To effectively connect with the mediator, you must:
The Analyzer
These individuals are meticulous, detail-oriented, introverted and task-oriented. They can be considered perfectionists, and they are suspicious of others. They may answer a question with a question. Their biggest fear is criticism of work and they ask the “why” questions. Key strengths of the “analyzer” include being detailed-oriented, superb problem solvers and providing the team’s reality check. Weaknesses include having tunnel vision on projects and looking for the perfect solution.
To effectively communicate with the analyzer, you must:
Source GovExec
The Aggressor-Asserter
These are your CEOs in attitude. They are competitive, goal-oriented, demanding, task-oriented and fast-paced. To these people, time is money and money is time. You know where you stand since they are blunt and direct in their communication. Their biggest fear is losing control and they ask the “What” questions. The “aggressor-asserter” has key strengths that include providing momentum, providing focus and making quick decisions. Their “on top of it” approach to projects can keep the rest of the team on target or even get it done early. This must be balanced with their weaknesses, however, which include overstepping their assignments, taking over tasks that have been assigned to others (and not necessarily because they can do them better, they just want to get them done).
To effectively connect with the aggressor-asserter, you must:
- Be brief, direct and concise
- Provide options
- Keep a quick pace
- Focus on results and return-on-investment
- Avoid providing lots of details
- Provide short answers
- Look them straight in the eyes
- Be truthful
The Socializer
These individuals are charismatic, enthusiastic, persuasive, lively, loud, talkative, friendly, people-oriented and social. They are also visual and creative. Their biggest fear is social rejection and they ask the “who” questions. The “socializer’ is a great motivator. In the most organizations, they are on sales team. They are creative and enjoy brainstorming. They do not keep track of time well and sometimes work tight to deadlines. They enjoy being the center of attention.
To effectively communicate with the socializer, you must:
- Allow time for social interaction
- Put details in writing or email
- Have a fast pace, positive approach
- Use a whiteboard in your discussions (socializers are quite visual)
- Use phrases like “Picture this” or “Do You See”
- Avoid a harsh, aggressive tone
The Mediator
These individuals are calm, level-headed, great listeners, team-oriented, introverted and loyal. They make decisions in a consensus manner. Mediators like to marinate on questions—you will not get an answer immediately. They dislike conflict so they will internalize and tolerate it. As a result, this internalization builds until they explode. Their biggest fear is loss of stability and they ask the “How” questions. Team and project managers are typically fall into this style. Weaknesses include being hesitant in their approach slowing decision-making—they are going to try to keep everyone happy at the expense of their happinesss. Mediators are hard-working who are humble and do not pat themselves on the back. They make great teachers/trainers and mentors due to their calming and supportive nature.
To effectively connect with the mediator, you must:
- Be patient and logical
- Use a steady, low-key approach
- Involve mediators in the planning process
- Praise them privately
- Allow time for “marination of ideas”—you will not get a quick answer
- Start conversation with a warm and friendly greeting
- Keep your tone of voice at discussion level
The Analyzer
These individuals are meticulous, detail-oriented, introverted and task-oriented. They can be considered perfectionists, and they are suspicious of others. They may answer a question with a question. Their biggest fear is criticism of work and they ask the “why” questions. Key strengths of the “analyzer” include being detailed-oriented, superb problem solvers and providing the team’s reality check. Weaknesses include having tunnel vision on projects and looking for the perfect solution.
To effectively communicate with the analyzer, you must:
- Be organized and logical
- Support your position using facts
- Make sure that each point is understood before moving to the next point
- Do not use the phrase “Let me give you some constructive advice”
- Use words such as process, data and procedure
- Realize that analyzers are motivated by quality and data
Source GovExec
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